This month, we celebrate and honor the diverse identities that make up the Bi+ community. Many people experience attraction in ways that don’t fit neatly into “gay,” “straight,” or “lesbian.” Recognizing and respecting these experiences is an important part of supporting our clients and community — especially since Bi+ people often face identity erasure through dismissal, invalidation, or denial.

But many of us still hold onto outdated, commercialized ideas of self-care—ones that don’t actually nourish us in the way real self-care...